When you help your mom with the housework, she might complain about how you didn’t “do it right”. When you take your dad to his doctor’s appointments, he might complain throughout the journey from your driving skills to the traffic conditions to the waiting time. If you’re suffering from your loved ones’ complaints and negativity, don’t worry. You’re not alone. Here are some tips to help you cope with complaints and negativity.
Why Is My Loved One Being so Negative?
First, let’s try to understand why your loved one is prone to complaining and being negative. Is this a new behavior, or has their personality been like this since a long time ago? If it’s a new occurrence, try to be understanding. As people age, things can feel hopeless and frustrating, especially if your loved one suffers from limited mobility, physical pain, and other illnesses. If they’ve always been chronically complaining, however, it might be the only method of communication they know. However, it is also possible that their complaints and negativity might be due to medication, chronic pain, dementia, or other medical conditions.
Let’s start by looking at what to do if your loved one is cranky due to health or medical issues.
Medication-Related Crankiness
There are some types of medications that lead to personality and behavioral changes, such as psychiatric drugs, anti-seizure medications, blood pressure medications, and more. Sometimes, medications can cause other side effects or result in the original condition worsening. Make sure to communicate with your loved one’s healthcare provider and relate your concerns about your loved one’s changes in behavior or mood. Their doctor might change the dosage or recommend new medication. This might improve your loved one’s mood and behavior.
Deal with Their Pain
Pain can be emotionally and mentally distressing in the long run and reduce an individual’s quality of life drastically. Is your loved one complaining about pain all the time? Some people who suffer from chronic pain do not mention it as they are afraid of the doctor or do not want to complain. However, the pain they constantly feel can lead them to express their frustration and anger towards others. Make sure to speak to your loved ones gently and bring them to the doctor for pain relief if they need it. A common source of pain is arthritic joint pain and can be noticed by reduced dexterity and changes in gait. By resolving their pain, your loved one is likely to become less cranky.
Find a Supportive Community for Your Loved One
Sometimes, you have to admit that you’re struggling to maintain your own mental health while dealing with your loved ones’ issues. It might be better for you to take a more hands-off role in your loved ones’ life. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, try to seek help from other family members, a caregiver, or a senior living community.
A senior living community, such as Country Club At Woodland Hills is equipped with great amenities and programs for retired individuals. Our resort-style living includes a professional housekeeping and maintenance team, a seasoned culinary team, and more! Your loved one will be able to enjoy personalized care and 24/7 access to a healthcare team. Find out more about our senior living options today!
